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#GirlDads Are Fucking Up

#GirlDads Are Fucking Up

The cycle of abusive treatment for women is on a perpetual loop with no end in sight, and the #girldads who dote on their beautiful kids while publicly harassing, shaming, attacking and disrespecting women are in for a rude awakening. Rather than attack those of us trying to make the world a better place for their daughters, it’s time they joined the fight – starting with themselves.
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Men Should Embolden Women to Lift Weights

Men Should Embolden Women to Lift Weights

From a moral perspective, what actually matters when it comes to how you treat yourself and others? Confucius’ golden rule is helpful: treat other people how you wish yourself to be treated. I italicized the word “people” for a distinct reason: until women are simply understood as human beings, rather than as some “other” thing, the problem under question will not be resolved.
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Never Save A Woman: The Cancer Of Gender Inequality

Never Save A Woman: The Cancer Of Gender Inequality

We’ve been told that “rape culture” isn’t real. Especially in developed, first-world countries – we don’t have a problem with rape culture. Women are simply too sensitive, they have no sense of humor, they take everything too seriously. There is entitlement breeding here - ownership - a level of claim to women's bodies in every segment of their existence that we cannot ignore. 

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Eleven Things I've Learned Running A Feminist Page

Eleven Things I've Learned Running A Feminist Page

It’s been almost 18 months since I started the You Look Like A Man  page on Instagram. What began as a silly way to make fun of sexist and misogynistic comments aimed at women in the athletic community quickly turned into something I had not expected, and was not prepared for. Here are some of the things I’ve learned since becoming a vocal activist for equality.
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Indian Girl Lifts

Indian Girl Lifts

The relentless commentary on women’s appearance and how we should act is annoying. It’s frustrating and I don’t know why it is normalized in our culture. For instance near my wedding I was told to make more of an effort with my appearance, to get my bridal make up done professionally and to look like someone that really didn’t feel like me.
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Burn The Witch: Sarah Fuller & American Football Culture

Burn The Witch: Sarah Fuller & American Football Culture

Last week, Sarah Fuller, a soccer player for the women’s team at Vanderbilt University, was asked to step in as a place kicker on short notice for the men’s football team. Within 45 minutes of the major sports networks announcing this development, the number of grotesque, sexually violent, dehumanizing and all around shitbag comments that flowed in across the internet made my jaw drop.
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Empowered By Piss

Empowered By Piss

I have never called urinary incontinence “empowering” before, but am slowly embracing this Gary-ism. Fuck it, it’s now empowerment. If Gary is telling me to stay home rather than upset his delicate sensitivities, well by golly, let’s turn this damn car around and call it empowering.
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The Defenders

The Defenders

Women speaking out against abuse is making many people uncomfortable. And it's time we start asking why. “When they throw around terms like ‘cancel culture’ to silence me instead of reckoning with the reasons I might find certain actions or jokes dehumanizing, I’d led to one conclusion: they’d prefer I was powerless against my own oppression.”–Sarah Hagi, TIME, November 2019

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Dicks & Stones

Dicks & Stones

This is not the time to laugh and keep scrolling when you see these comments, this is the time to say enough. Stand up for yourself and for others, have a backbone and don’t accept this behaviour. Join the YYLAM community and the battle against online bulling, sexism and misogyny. If you’re one of the ones lurking behind your screen, filled with poisonous words, maybe remember what I’m sure your mother taught you, which was if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it. Also, maybe make your own fucking sandwich.

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Today I Am

Today I Am

A few months ago, a follower of our Instagram account sent the following message about a situation that had happened to her at a local vitamin store:

“Legit had the guy at my local GNC that I frequented look up my number though my membership and text me to show his interest.”

This comment was posted to our stories, and almost instantly the submissions of similar situations flooded our inbox for the next week. We posted over 400 stories of professional harassment to our account, all of which can still be viewed by looking at our “story highlights” on our page.

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Shut Up Gary

Shut Up Gary

A "Gary" (or the version for women is now GaryAnna) is synonymous with any fitness-related bro douche-baggery. Gary is a guy who leaves unsolicited feedback on your posts. Gary believes women exist to be sexual servants to men. Gary probably benched 450 in high school, before he tore his shoulder, and was on the football team. He thinks bench arching is bad, women should stick to cardio and toning, and muscles are "gross" on women. 
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Microaggressions Against Women Who Lift

Microaggressions Against Women Who Lift

Women are actively discouraged from participating in strength and power sports in order to maintain a hierarchy in which men are considered physically stronger which allows for the continued justification of society to benefit men over women. Sexist microaggressions might be attempted to be framed as “well-meaning” or “chivalrous." However, all sexist microaggressions are meant to stop or deter women from continuing to participate in the activity or behavior. In the case of women’s athletics, sexist microaggressions are used to stop women from participating, performing, or competing in sports overall, but especially “masculine” sports.

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